Why is Human Childhood So Hard? A Big Reason is in Our Reproductive Biology

By Rachel Puryear If you get to know people well enough for them to tell you – truthfully – about their early lives, you will notice that a lot of people have hard childhoods. Maybe you had one, too. It’s extremely common for people to have childhood trauma, at least to some degree. You mightContinue reading “Why is Human Childhood So Hard? A Big Reason is in Our Reproductive Biology”

Peopled Out: Managing Overstimulation for Introverts, Empathic, and Neurodiverse Folks

By Rachel Puryear For those of us who are introverts, empathic/HSP people, and otherwise neurodiverse; we can have a rather complicated relationship with most of our fellow humans. On the one hand, we tend to try to be kind and patient with other people – and we tend to disapprove when others are less courteousContinue reading “Peopled Out: Managing Overstimulation for Introverts, Empathic, and Neurodiverse Folks”

For Human Beings, Sex is So Much More Than Just Procreation

By Rachel Puryear With reproductive rights under major attack in the United States, the age-old debate about sex rages on. Most Americans support free reproductive choice, access to contraception, and minding one’s own business about what goes on in other people’s bedrooms – but you wouldn’t know it from many of our policies. One ofContinue reading “For Human Beings, Sex is So Much More Than Just Procreation”

Q&A: No, Being a Highly Empathic (HSP) Person is Not a “Religion”

By Rachel Puryear For the most part, I simply don’t engage with people who deny that highly empathic (also called HSP) people exist, and that our real-life experiences are genuine. It’s usually not worth engaging with these people. However, recently I encountered someone who claimed that “being an empath is just another religion” – andContinue reading “Q&A: No, Being a Highly Empathic (HSP) Person is Not a “Religion””

Emotional Manipulation – Sneaky Tactics of Toxic People

By Rachel Puryear We’ve all heard of toxic people. The widespread interest in this subject is a testament to the collective frustration over how difficult it is to deal with chronically difficult people. We all recognize the more obvious forms of toxic behavior – when people are pushy, mean, degrading, and otherwise openly aggressive inContinue reading “Emotional Manipulation – Sneaky Tactics of Toxic People”

Good Indicators of Intelligence

By Rachel Puryear If there’s one thing highly intelligent, gifted and talented people need, it’s each other. We understand – and accept – one another in ways that others cannot. In large part, we are able to readily identify one another – especially given a chance to meet in a relaxed environment, and build aContinue reading “Good Indicators of Intelligence”

Q&A: Is Love and Romance Really Easier for “Beautiful” Women?

By Rachel Puryear It’s no secret that women considered conventionally beautiful often draw the envy of people of all genders – particularly when it comes to matters of love and romance. But do they really have any better love lives than everyone else, ultimately? I got a question from someone who is 24 years old,Continue reading “Q&A: Is Love and Romance Really Easier for “Beautiful” Women?”

No, Empathic People Aren’t Inherently Broken and Unhappy

By Rachel Puryear There’s a popular conception of empathic/HSP people being sad, melancholy, depressive people; ultimately broken by the cruelty of the world. Even some empathic people – especially those who have had a lot of trauma, and/or have not learned to separate other people’s energy from their own – may believe that there isContinue reading “No, Empathic People Aren’t Inherently Broken and Unhappy”

Helping Abortion Seekers Post-Roe

By Rachel Puryear Well, “post-Roe” is a phrase it deeply pains me to write. This is a gruesome and outrageous step back in civil rights, bodily autonomy, and personal freedom. A key part of a disturbing trend of outsized influence of an extreme, billionaire-funded, rightwing minority clawing back decades of progress. For a small numberContinue reading “Helping Abortion Seekers Post-Roe”