Empaths Are Not Pushovers. We Fight Differently, Though.

By Rachel Puryear

One of the biggest misconceptions about empaths is that we are big pushovers who cannot, and will not, ever put up a fight. That idea is to be believed at one’s peril.

Pack of big cats strolling through a meadow together quietly, but looking fierce.

We empaths are usually not big on hitting and violence when we are angry and upset. The same goes for yelling and screaming, name calling, insults, and so forth. (We tend to use naughty words like anyone else, though, but not necessarily directed at others.) Accordingly, when we get angry, it tends to not be the fireworks display that it is for most other people. This leads to a big misconception that we are simply not fighters.

Here is the secret weapon of empaths: We are far more honest than most people are prepared for. We will tell others the truth, often quietly and gently, whether they can handle it or not. We do not like to go along with games of pretending and denying.

We embrace the truth, even when it hurts. For us, this is still better than living a lie. We can face the truth much better than we can carry lies.

Accordingly, one of our best weapons in a fight is our raw, often brutal, unchecked honesty. It’s far more effective at disarming someone than being aggressive and abusive. The thing is, it usually takes time for empaths to get to this point – we tend to be avoidant about conflict initially, at least up to a certain point. But once we get pushed to the point where the brutal honesty comes out, many people are not prepared for that.

Therefore, don’t start conflict with an empath if you are not prepared for this. Empaths probably won’t win a contest of screaming and insults – but they can win by being prepared to go to places that most people are not comfortable going, through raw honesty.


Thank you, dear readers, for reading, following, and sharing. Here’s to your embracing your gentle and quiet, yet fierce and unapologetically honest fighting style. If you enjoyed this content and want to see more of it, please hit “like” and “subscribe”, if you do not do so already. xoxo

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